My BIL died over the weekend after a 2 1/2 year battle with cancer. When he first became ill he weighed over 250 pounds and he was around 100 pounds when he died Sunday morning. It was awful slowly watching this great man die. I don’t even want to begin to imagine what those 2 1/2 long years were like for his wife.
But we all know how stress, grief, and any type of extreme emotion affects our ME/CFS & Fibromyalgia symptoms. Monday was a really bad day for me and I was unable to function the entire day. The whole emotional turmoil of watching someone in the family die, trying to be there for the family and wanting to do whatever you can to help the distraught spouse does not agree well with chronic illnesses like CFS.
I have often wondered how my body will respond when someone in my own family dies and if I will be able to physically withstand the grieving process. I seem to have a lot of trouble physically dealing. I know some of that comes from being the type of person who grieves by getting busy. I find that I “deal”with grief by initially getting very busy and throwing myself into whatever it is I can. Then I guess my body doesn’t like that so it will shut down on me.
When my husband had a triple bypass, I didn’t do well physically either. I ended up working two jobs to help make ends meet at the time but my body eventually gave out and just the stress of worrying about him all of the time was worse for me than actually working the two jobs.
I wish I could find a way to deal with stress, grief and all of those emotions better. Any suggestions?