Yesterday at church I was given another person’s “theory” on what causes Fibromyalgia. As I was talking to the Sunday school teacher, the subject came around to the weather getting colder and I mentioned that I did not like this time of year due to my Fibromyalgia. I said the cold weather made my fatigue from the CFS worse and it made the pain from my Fibromyalgia worse.
He continued to talk to me and he asked me a few questions which I figured were leading to his FM theory. He asked me…
- When were you diagnosed?
- Were you married when you were diagnosed?
- How long had you been married when you were diagnosed?
- Did you carry the majority of the weight in the marriage (working, household chores, the marriage itself).
I replied with…
- I was diagnosed with the CFS when I was 21 years old. It was years later for the FM but I had FM then as well.
- I was married to my first husband when I was diagnosed.
- I was married for less than a year when I was diagnosed.
- I did carry the majority of the weight in the relationship in all aspects.
After I revealed this information to him, he went on to say that he has read and believes that people develop illnesses like Fibromyalgia whenever they have had to carry a lot of the weight of a relationship. He said it was the stress and strain of “doing it all” that causes these types of illnesses.
I didn’t have a lot of time to respond because the class was starting but I was sort of stunned. By now I shouldn’t be stunned by hearing these different “theories” but it still shocks me the things that people believe about real, physical illnesses.
I am usually very good at giving a mini education on these illnesses but when I am confronted at church (this is the second time at church I have been told these illnesses have a psychological background), I seem to go tight lipped. I think it is because I fear that the Bible will be used to reject anythingI have to say – then I wouldn’t know how to respond to that.
I have told my husband many times that I feel as though I have been chosen to bear these illnesses because I am supposed to make something good come out of it. I just haven’t figured out what that something is yet. Public speaking maybe? I’m not sure.